当我们公开分享我们的目标时，我们会感觉到自己已经成功。结果呢？ 但我们实际上却没有真正的去追求这个目标。

 

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原文Why you shoudnt share your goals 为什么你不能把你的目标分享出去Some experts argue that early praise can leave the individual receiving the praise feeling like he or she has already won… in turn causing them to be less likely to follow through with their goals.

一些专家认为，过早的溢美之词会使人骄傲……反之，导致他们不太可能坚持自己的目标For example,in Peter Gollwitzer’s research article,When Intentions Go Public,he raises this very question:。

例如，在Peter Gollwitzer的研究文章中，他便提到了这个问题：Are scientists more likely to write papers if they tell colleagues about their intentions or if they keep their intentions to themselves?

如果科学家早已直截了当将自己的意图的告诉他们的同事，他们还有可能去写论文吗？Gollwitzer and his team of researchers carried out a handful of studies,here is a brief excerpt from their findings:

Gollwitzer和他的研究小组进行了大量的研究，这是他们的发现的一个简短的摘录：“Other people’s taking notice of one’s identity-relevant intentions apparently engenders a premature sense of completeness regarding the identity goal.”

“其他人注意到一个人的身份相关意图显然会对身份目标盲目乐观”In English,what Gollwitzer found was that when individuals set a goal that is closely tied to their identity and then share their intentions with others,they are less likely to achieve the goal.。

在英语中，Gollwitzer发现的是，当个人设定一个与他们的身份密切相关的目标，然后与他人分享他们的意图时，他们不太可能实现目标For example,if your goal is to start drinking more water and you tell your friends and family that you’re going to start drinking more water,this would probably have little to no impact on whether or not you actually drink more water.。

举个例子，如果你的目标是喝大量的水，并且将其告诉你的朋友和家人，你将践行，无论你是否达成目标，都将不会产生太大的影响Why?Because drinking more water isn’t something you hold close to your identity.。

为什么？因为喝更多的水对你的身份不会造成太大的影响On the other hand,if your goal is to lose 40 lbs and drop 2–3 waist sizes,it might not be the best idea to post about it all over Facebook.Your appearance is something you very much so identify with. So,if you tell people you plan to lose weight and everyone tells you how awesome you are and how great you’re going to look,you might be less likely to lose the weight.。

另一方面，如果你的目标是减掉40磅并减少2-3个腰围，那么在Facebook上发布它可能不是最好的主意也许你对你的外表很自信 所以，如果你告诉别人你打算减肥，每个人都告诉你，你看起来有多棒，但是你也许不太可能减轻体重。

This finding is a bit counterintuitive,considering we were told by our teachers and coaches growing up to set our goals,share our goals, hold ourselves accountable.

一想到我们的老师或者教练在我们成长中设定目标，分享目标，并教导我们承担责任，这就好像有悖于这个发现But,the theory certainly holds some weight (pun very much intended),and is one that has been adopted by highly successful serial entrepreneurs like Derek Sivers,founder of CD Baby.。

但是，这个理论有其可取之处（双关语非常有意义），并且是由CD Baby的创始人Derek Sivers等非常成功的连续创业者所采用的Sivers gave a TED Talk on this very topic nearly a decade back.To prove his point,he asked the audience to imagine how they felt when they shared their goals with others:。

近十年前，Sivers就这个话题进行了TED演讲 为了证明他的观点，他要求观众想象他们与他人分享目标时的感受：“Imagine their congratulations and their high image of you.Doesn’t it feel good to say it out loud?Don’t you feel one step closer already?Like,it’s already becoming part of your identity?。

“想象一下他们的祝贺和他们对你的高度赞誉 大声说出来感觉不错吗？ 难道你不觉得又近了一步吗？ 就像，它已经成为你身份的一部分？Well,bad news.You should have kept your mouth shut.That good feeling makes you less likely to do it.”。

所以这不是一件好事你应该闭嘴因为这种良好的感觉只是一种假象Sivers goes on to explain that it’s this “warm feeling” that keeps us from battling on to actually achieve our goals.。

Sivers接着解释说，正是这种“温暖的感觉”让我们不再努力实现我们的目标When we openly share our goals,we experience a feeling of success that normally only takes place upon completion of the goal.。

The result? We don’t ever actually pursue the goal.当我们公开分享我们的目标时，我们会感觉到自己已经成功结果呢？但我们实际上却没有真正的去追求这个目标Alternatives to sharing your goals.

相比起分享我的目标I’ve recently shared 3 real-life business tactics to achieve your “big hairy goals”.But now, let’s talk about what can actually work when it comes to successfully reaching your goals.。

我最近选择了分享3种真实的商业策略来实现你的“大目标” 但现在，让我们谈谈在成功实现目标时实际可行的方法有哪些 For two counterintuitive yet effective approaches to this,we look to a philosophy called “fear-setting” and making an effort to surround yourself with competition.。

对于两种违反直觉但又有效的方法，我们寻求一种名为“恐惧设定”的理念，并努力将自己置于竞争之中Embrace fear-setting over goal-sharing.拥抱对目标共享的恐惧Entrepreneur,angel investor and writer,Tim Ferriss,gave an incredible TED Talk where he discussed how fear-setting is instrumental in achieving one’s goals.。

企业家，天使投资人兼作家蒂姆·费里斯（Tim Ferriss）发表了令人难以置信的TED演讲，他讨论了在恐惧之下如何有助于实现自己的目标He recommends that instead of obsessively sharing your goals,you should come to terms with all the fears that are preventing you from achieving them.For example,let’s say your goal is to start your own business.Ferriss recommends that you write down all of your fears that are associated with starting a business.。

他建议你不要过分痴迷地分享你的目标，而应该接受阻止你实现这些目标的所有恐惧例如，假设你的目标是开展自己的业务 Ferriss建议你记下与创业有关的所有担忧These might include… “Losing all my money”… “Getting fired from my day job”… “Getting laughed at or judged if I fail”.。

这些可能包括…“失去我所有的钱”…“被解雇”…“被嘲笑或被评判我是否失败”Once you write down these fears,you should then write down how you would go about preventing these fears (or mitigating the likelihood) of them actually happening.。

最后，在你写下预防措施之后，你应该写下你将如何战胜那些你所担忧的事情...For example,for the first fear “losing all my money”,your prevention might be… “I’m only going to invest $2,500 that way I can’t lose it all.”

例如，担心“失去我所有的钱”，你的预防可能是......“我只会投资2500美元，这样我就不会失去一切”Finally,after you have written down your preventions,you should then write down how you will repair what you fear from happening… if it actually ends up happening.。

最后，在你写下预防措施之后，你应该写下你将如何修复你害怕发生的事情...以备不时之需Surround yourself with competition.让你自己处于竞争的环境中In addition to fear-setting,it might also be a good idea to surround yourself with competition.。

除了恐惧之外，让自己处于竞争的环境中也许是一个好主意A healthy dose of competition can be good for your business,too.At JotForm,we love to use competition to our advantage with events like hackweeks to achieve our product release goals.。

健康的竞争对您的企业也有好处在JotForm，我们喜欢通过hackweeks等竞争性质的活动实现我们的产品发布目标A study published two years ago in the journal Preventive Medicine Reports,sheds some light on the impact that competition has on our goals.。

两年前在“预防医学报告”杂志上发表的一项研究，揭示了竞争对我们目标的影响The study put 800 undergraduate and graduate students at the University of Pennsylvania through an 11-week exercise program where each person was assigned to work out alone or in a team.。

该研究为宾夕法尼亚大学的800名本科生和研究生提供了为期11周的锻炼计划，每个人被分配到单独或团队中锻炼In addition,the teams were designed to be either supportive or competitive.。

此外，这些团队的设计要么是支持性的，要么是竞争性的By the end of the study,researchers found that students involved in the competitive team programs were 90% more likely to attend their scheduled exercise sessions than any other group.。

研究结束时，研究人员发现，参与竞争性团队计划的学生参加预定的锻炼课程的可能性比其他任何一组都要高90％Not only is this number staggering,but it also proves that competition can create a higher level of commitment among people chasing down goals.。

这个数字不仅令人咋舌，而且还证明了竞争可以在追逐目标的人中创造更高水平的成果When you surround yourself with competition,it doesn’t mean that you have to share your goals with the competition.You don’t have to tell the other folks in the spin class,cross-fit training or pick-up basketball leagues that your goal is to lose 50 lbs.。

当你处于竞争环境中时，并不意味着你必须与竞争对手分享你的目标你不必告诉旋转课程，交叉训练或接球篮球联赛中的其他人，你的目标是减掉50磅But,by simply showing up and placing yourself in a competitive environment,you will be more likely to push harder and show up more often — two factors that can help your reach your goals.。

但是，有两个因素可以帮助你实现目标通过简单地展示自己并将自己置于竞争激烈的环境中，您可能会更加努力的工作和更多的展示你自己The science behind achieving goals has always been an interesting topic.。

目标背后的科学一直是一个有趣的话题While some entrepreneurs advocate the idea that you should never have a goal,I’ve recently explained why setting big goals can make you miserable.。

虽然有些企业家提倡你永远不应该有目标，但我最近解释了为什么设定大目标会让你痛苦不堪Whether you decide to share your goals or not,what I’ve found out across 12 years of entrepreneurship is that you should craft your own path.。

无论你是否决定分享你的目标，我想通过自己12年的创业经验告诉你，你应该创造你自己的道路What works for others won’t always work for you.And what works for you today won’t always work tomorrow.。

对他人有用的东西未必适合你，而今天对你有用的东西也许在未来不会一直有用。

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